How to stay emotionally well using mindfulness
On a personal level you may or may not be anxious right now, however there is plenty of stuff happening to make us all feel anxious so don’t beat yourself up about it.
If we are not worried ourselves most of us have apprehension about what the future holds for our friends, loved ones, work colleagues and their mental, physical and financial fitness.
Change is on the way.
The scenery and different routine that comes from being quarantined doesn’t feel normal for me right now and maybe having to be a teacher, worker and parent all at the same time doesn’t help.
If like me, you don’t feel you’re doing a particularly fantastic job of any of these.
Help is on the way!
Here are some important tips for managing anxiety during the Corona Virus, using Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Mindfulness which sounds complicated but isn’t really – even I can do it and gets easier with time.
The idea of choosing your state is something that can be counter intuitive.
A commonly held misconception is that we feel a certain way, which will probably pass, but that there isn’t much that we can do about it?
In NLP however, we do believe that states can change when you use the correct resources. (We all have them, we just need to learn how to use them)
There is a classic NLP formula that neatly summarises what this is all about.
Our Present State (i.e. how we feel right now) added to certain Resources (principles and practices) creates a Desired State (i.e. how we would like to feel). Put in another way:
PS + R = DS
The resources in this context have a wide meaning. It includes anything which helps to change your state.
The first tip is a resource of acceptance. Simply allow yourself to accept that you are not in a good state and that this is ok (Mindfulness!). This may sound simple, but for most of us this is difficult to understand without daily practice, this principle can be really challenging.
If you simply allow yourself to feel as you are in the present moment, without stressing for instantly pleasant or negative feelings (we can get addicted to both), it suddenly opens an entirely new world. (This is the start of being mindful).
It’s strange to think that by simply allowing yourself to experience your feelings, without pushing them away, but without magnifying them either – they begin to naturally transform.
Mindfulness is a way of exercising your ability to pay attention: when you can focus on something critical thoughts or rumination quieten down.
Ruby wax has a great definition which is ‘noticing your thoughts and feelings without kicking your own ass while your doing it’.